Returning to Basics

Over the past few years, I’ve noticed a common thread in many workplaces and in personal relationships. It’s the absence of using please and thank you with each other.

Imagine how you would feel today if someone took the time to say thank you for something you did and/or they included please when asking you to do something. These three simple words create a positive impact for both the giver and receiver of the message. They demonstrate appreciation and gratitude.

In today’s fast paced-world it’s important to take time to say thank you in a sincere way and not abbreviate the recognition we give to others to just “thanks”.

I think back to when I learned to write my first thank you note and I was taught to identify what I was thanking the giver of the gift for and why it will be helpful to me e.g. “Dear Gram, thank you for the beautiful mittens. They’ll help keep my hands warm when I’m outside playing with my friends.”

This writing lesson plays an important role in the workplace and in our relationships. As humans, we like to be recognized and noticed for the extra things we do and it has a greater impact if the recognition feels sincere and has meaning to it. Try including what and why when you are saying thank you to someone today.

I once worked with a physician who would write on the white board in the morning, “Please and thank you for everything you do all day today.” This small gesture produced warm smiles from our entire team throughout the day.

Watch the reaction you receive from your kids when you thank them for what they did today. Remember to be specific, “Thank you for doing the dishes, it means a lot to me.”

Taking time to notice the good and recognizing it will shift your energy. Share a friendly thank you wave to someone when they make room for you to pull out into traffic.

I love to see the smile that occurs when I say thank you to someone and recognize him or her and what he or she is doing. Let me know what you notice as you increase the frequency of using please and thank you. 

If you would like to chat about how you can make appreciation and gratitude a bigger part of your life, click here to sign up for a complimentary discovery call with me today


Summer hit Maine this weekend! We went from 50 degrees to 94 degrees overnight! Once I felt the intense heat, it reminded me of a promise I made myself in the fall of last year. The promise was to take more time off to soak in the beauty of the summer and go to the water more.

On Monday, I reviewed my calendar and blocked out time for sun and fun! By doing this it provides me time to recharge my batteries so I can be fully present with my clients. It also allows my creativity to kick in to determine what’s next for my business. How will I continue to grow and evolve into the next version?

I know it sounds a bit counter-intuitive – take more time off to grow your business…however, it works. If you are employed in a company, the time off will help you show up as your best self and produce your finest work.

Many of us intellectually know this, however sometimes we fall into the trap of “needing to feel important or essential to operations” and the story we tell ourselves sounds something like, “_______needs me, so I can’t possibly take time away.”

When the truth may be, ________ would probably benefit more if I were rested, rejuvenated and connected to my goals and work instead of exhausted, drained and at my wits' end.

Here’s my challenge for you, take a glance as your summer calendar, what does it look like? Where could you block some time to do something you enjoy? You may need to be creative in finding ways to do this e.g. move a meeting, reschedule a client, work late one day to finish a project.

Let me know how you make space to rejuvenate. If you would like to talk more about how to create space in your life to align with the lifestyle you most desire, click here to sign up for a complimentary discovery session with me today.


Imagine if you were able to dedicate time to engage in an activity where you were overjoyed and felt fully alive.  You didn’t think about your goals or the next strategies you were going to implement to reach your goals.

During this time you were able to flick a switch and dive into something directly connected to your heart.  In this space, you could color outside the lines and the flowers could be any color you desired. Your actions were inspired and filled with joy.

My guess is for some of you the mere thought of doing this creates anxiety within you. Cause you have *$*# to do on your checklist for the day! I get it!

Growing a business or leading a group of people takes tons of energy and focus. The more energy and focus you contribute the more success you appear to have until one day you’re tapped out. Completely drained, yet the go to thought is, “If I can just focus on this…it will be okay.” So you try your best to buck up and focus.

As humans we are created to experience and embrace the world of paradox; however, we often choose to avoid these experiences due to the uncomfortable feeling it creates. After all who wants to do the opposite of what feels so cozy and comfy?

The opposite of focused is unfocused…head vs heart…drive vs flow…swimming upstream vs floating down a calm river on a beautiful sun filled day.

I’m curious, if you were to look at what your day is filled with today and you were to do the opposite of that for one hour this week, what would it be? What have you wanted to do for a while and simply haven’t found the time?

This is an opportunity to make time vs waiting to find the time. Block one hour and do the thing that brings you joy and connects you to your heart. Clearly, this will be very different for each person

When I viewed my calendar and reflected on what I’m doing and thought about what the opposite of that would be, I got really excited. This exercise helped me take action and enroll in a program to bring more music into my life on a consistent basis. No more waiting and trying to find the time! I made a decision, made the time by blocking my calendar and I’m on my way to enjoying a different experience.

What paradox could you introduce in your life? Let me know what you decide and if you’d like to talk more about what that could be, click here to sign up for a complimentary discovery session with me today. 

What's in Front of You?

Learning to notice what’s in front of you.

My thoughts today will be brief to match the fabulous short workweek.

On the weekends, I love to go for a trail run along the river with my husband and our dog. About a mile and a half in is a huge beautiful rock high up on the riverbank with a roaring group of rapids below.

In the spring, this is an excellent spot to rest and watch osprey fish from their perch high in the trees. This past weekend, we were there and I kept looking way up in trees and down the river in search of the gorgeous birds. Getting a bit disappointed I wasn’t seeing them, I started to put my head down. Much to my surprise, there were four of them directly across the river almost at my eye level!

Instantly, I felt a rush of excitement to be able to relax and watch them for a while. As I was soaking in their movements I began to wonder, where else in my life am I too busy looking beyond or past exactly what I want to see or have?

As a successful entrepreneur, I set goals for myself every day so I can create the level of business I desire. The key is to be able to live in the present and not get too focused on the future. I want to take advantage of the opportunity to enjoy the experience I’m in today.

I’m curious; where in your life or business might you be looking too far down river for what you most want? How might this be preventing you from being completely present today in case what you want is right in front of you?

Let me know what crossed your mind as you read the question above. If you would like to talk more about becoming present in your life and business, click here to set up a complimentary discovery call with me today. 

Beyond Just Thinking

Move Beyond Thinking

Happy Thursday! I hope you are experiencing the week in a way that feels amazing.

I have a hunch you may be counting down the hours until the weekend! Let’s do a quick check in. If you were to rate your stress and happiness levels on a scale of 1-10 (1=none at all; 10=over the top), what would your numbers be? What do the numbers tell you? Are they what you would like them to be?

I get it.  I used to move through the week, trying my best to multitask to meet the impending deadlines. Allowing the stress to build and build while making decisions to work late instead of going for a run.  One day blended into the next until my internal candle was blown out.

Making new choices is hard, however we have one life. One.  I reached the point where finding a new way to live my one life was crucial.

I had to stop. Feel really uncomfortable in the stillness. Learn to BE in the quiet and still presence of me. HOLY…uncomfortable!

My mind needed to rest so it could move into a place of imagination and creativity. Where I could begin to think about what was truly possible for me.

Imagine the door creaking open to a world of possibility for you! What would you see…hear…smell…taste and feel?

I can hear you saying, I don’t’ have time for that *#@^! And that’s okay. I simply want to invite you to consider taking a few minutes of your day to set your mind free and allow it to daydream and be curious.

Once your mind has a chance to slow down, it will create ideas for you to explore.

Learning to do this was incredibly valuable, and yes at times challenging, for me. What’s the saying, “No pain no gain”?

I’m curious, when is the last time you took time to do the thing you love most either by yourself or with someone close to you?  My guess is the mere thought of doing this brought a smile to your face or generated warmth inside you.

Take advantage of this feeling and get your calendar out and block out time every week to do this; it will help bring you back to a sense of connection.

The additional bonus of incorporating these two practices into your life is you may find yourself being able to accomplish more than before and you may find you are able to do it with more ease and less frenzy.

I know taking time to walk and run trails near the water with my husband and our dog Winston every week helps keep me stay connected with my one life and purpose. When I get pulled off track, that’s the time I’m able to re-align my thoughts and gain perspective to continue to move forward.

These practices can help give you back your power of choice and provide you the space to start living with purpose and being deliberate in how you spend your time instead of giving your precious energy to everything and everybody.

These concepts will help you in whatever you do for work as well. “The Making of a Corporate Athlete” in the Harvard Business Review reminds us we are more than cognitive thinking machines.

In order to thrive and live our best one life, we must weave our emotional, physical and spiritual components into our daily experience. Finding a way to share the space with our mental thinking powerhouse.

Let me know how you are creating space in your life. If you’d like to talk about how to create transformation in your life, click here to schedule a complimentary discovery session with me today.

In the meantime, I encourage you to live and love your one life starting today! 

Inspiration Led Action


Your inspirations, where could they take you?

When is the last time you were inspired and then followed it with consistent action to breathe life into your inspiration making it a part of your experience?

You get the hit, the thought comes flying into your mind, and it creates a feeling of excitement within you. It feels amazing and powerful, then all of a sudden…BAMB!  Your thoughts turn into chaos!

Those amazing feelings are immediately exchanged with doubt, worry and self-sabotage statements. I know them all…what will people think, this will never work, who will buy this, the team is not capable of doing this, things will never change, etc.

You continue the lecture to yourself until you reach the point of releasing the inspiration and continue on with what you’ve always done. It’s the crazy rollercoaster ride.

When this happens you miss the opportunity to further develop your idea and test it.  The testing phase is where the action happens which goes hand in hand with learning more about your idea so you can tweak it and make it even better. Instead, it simply gets shut down.

Imagine if you were able to change your response to your idea(s). What if you were able to take small action steps to learn more about the idea? What if you were able to keep adjusting your idea until it transformed into your dream?

If Thomas Edison and Henry Ford had allowed their inspiration to be snuffed out with doubt and worry about what others thought, we would be sitting home in the dark every day!

Instead, they moved through their uncomfortable doubts to develop their ideas to get them to a point where they could be tested, morphed, tested again, again, and again until they reached success!

Edison once said, “I find my greatest pleasure, and so my reward, in the work that precedes what the world calls success.”

Imagine if you were to find joy in exploring your idea, learning more about it. Take a moment…recall one of the inspirational ideas that ignited a fire within you. As you recall the idea, imagine the idea being wildly successful. Feels awesome, right? Now, what small action step could you take today to get you closer to what you see?

Keep climbing and create success one step at a time, learning and shifting as you go. I’d love to hear about your journey, let me know what ideas you’re pursuing and what you’re learning. If you find yourself stuck or giving your ideas over to doubt and worry, click here to set up a discovery call with me today.

5 Powerful Questions for Reflection & Learning

Life is jammed packed with daily experiences; some feel amazing while others result in turning your face beet red. Each one provides a wealth of information to help you learn. The key is to take a few moments to reflect on what sparked your reaction to the experience.

John Dewey reminds us, “We do not learn from experience, we learn from reflecting on experience.”

Reflection is a critical skill in both your personal and professional life and without it growth becomes impossible.

A few years ago I created a daily reflection practice, which has been very beneficial in helping me identify thoughts or behaviors I want to celebrate and do more of as well as ones that I would like to change or do less of.

One of the hidden benefits of doing this practice on a daily basis has been an increased level of confidence in my ability to create effective sustainable change in my life and business.

This is a practice I teach and support my clients to embrace. When an individual or team of people are afforded the time to honestly reflect on what’s working and what’s not, it creates a powerful space for them to move beyond where they are to what could be possible.

One of the guiding principles needed for this to be successful is a safety zone free of judgment where you can share your thoughts. Yes, that means not judging yourself or others! Simply be curious.

Don’t wait for a crisis to reflect on what went wrong! There is ample power in reflecting on what went right or felt amazing. It builds courage and confidence to continue doing it.

I’d like to share a series of questions I use when helping people create their reflection practice:

  1. What felt great today?
  2. What didn’t feel so great?
  3. What do I (we) think created this?
  4. How might I (we) think about this differently?
  5. What change could I (we) test tomorrow to create a different result or experience?

I know it’s tough to dedicate and preserve the time to do this when the pressure to do more keeps growing within the world we live, however, a recent study by HEC Paris Professor of Strategy and Business Policy Giada Di Stefano shows that to stop and think is not a waste of time, and would help us to be 23% more productive.

Imagine what you could do…with increased confidence and productivity. Over the years, this practice has helped me grow my business and keep a healthy perspective with forward movement even when my day feels a bit bumpy.

If you decide to try this powerful practice, let me know what shifts for you.

If you would like to talk more about creating a reflection practice for yourself or in your place of work, click here to sign up for a complimentary discovery session with me today.

Knowledge & Alignment

Wow, I hit my first spring pothole this morning! Bang and my car now drives as if it has a mind of its own, pulling to the left even though I’m steering straight ahead.

Have you ever felt you were being pulled off course after an event occurred in your life? Or maybe it’s so subtle you don’t notice the constant pulling until one day you wake up with a nagging sensation and a screaming voice inside of you telling you something is off and needs to be changed.

This ah-ha moment may generate a feeling of panic. You may become filled with questions about what to do next or how to find the path back to who you are and what you are meant to do in your life.  All you know is there is an urgency because what you are experiencing feels awful.

What on earth could create such a feeling? Maybe it’s time to change careers! Maybe you’re ready to shake it up a bit, stretch yourself and grow into the next best version of yourself. You may have known this for a while yet kept pushing it aside.

Does the idea of leaving the comfort of what you know, the familiar, in your current role to move into the unknown stop you dead in your tracks? I get it! I too woke up one morning, in a panic and sweating knowing I wanted to make a change, yet I was paralyzed by the fear of the unknown.  

Based on my own journey and the experiences of many of my clients, I want to share with you three key components to build courage and alignment to be able to move past the fear into the next phase of your career.

  1. Discover and connect to your passion. When you are aligned with your passion you will have more energy and focus to pursue the next step. You may have more than one passion and that’s awesome!
  2. Honor your values. When you are clear about who you are and how you choose to live your life, you are able to sort through the many options available to you and select one that will create forward movement for you as a whole person.
  3. Remain open to possibility and keep your mindset positive. By keeping your mind open and in a positive state you are more likely able to see opportunities as they present to you.

Number 3 is by far the most challenging! The state of your mind will bring your results. If you are not satisfied with the result you are getting, take a moment to look in the mirror and shift your energy by focusing on what you want, not what you don’t want.

Yes, focus on what you want! Get yourself fully aligned with what you desire and what you want to experience in the next phase of your career.

  • What do you want the work in your new role to be focused on?
  • What type of people would you like to interact with?
  • What would your most productive work environment look like?

Okay, you get the picture. These are only a few of the dots to help you draw a clear picture of what could be next for you. Knowledge is power and when you know what you want, it helps you avoid the potholes and distractions causing you to drift off your course. As you begin to discover your answers to these questions, let me know where you are in your journey. If you are stuck in the muck of fear and would like to set up a time to chat about what is possible for you, click here to set up a complimentary discovery session with me today. 

A Spring Adventure

A spring adventure, where to begin? I had the honor to spend part of last week in DC. The smell of the cherry blossoms, the vastness of the architecture, the deliberate layout of the city, the breathtaking monuments and the magnificent memorials made for an incredible visit.

Much of the profound wisdom written by our forefathers caused me to pause and reflect on where I am in my own thinking. As I walked through the stunningly beautiful Franklin Delano Roosevelt memorial, the quote that really hit home for me was, “The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today. Let us move forward with strong and active faith.” Franklin D. Roosevelt (Prepared for April 13, 1945)

I began to think about my own dreams for my life, family and business and got intensely curious about how my doubts may be getting in the way of being able to realize tomorrow in it’s absolute fullest version.

Doubt, fear…on March 4, 1933 FDR said, "The only thing we have to fear is fear itself." This was over 84 years ago and I find it interesting how fear continues to rule our lives today. Fear of failure, success, each other… you name it and there is probably an element of fear to it!

In my work I meet new people from all walks of life and many of them share with me their dreams and desires. Today I had a conversation with a woman who is well educated and has spent the last 20 years of her career grooming herself to open a consulting practice. The words she used to describe this desire were, “I’ve always wanted to have my own business.”

As the conversation progressed I learned she was not moving forward to pursue her dream because of fear and it has completely paralyzed her!

One of the first questions this capable young woman asked me was, “What will I do if I fail?” I paused and quietly responded, “What will you do if you succeed?” It became crystal clear to me the idea of success had yet to become a possibility for her and she was not able to imagine it as a viable option.

As I left the coffee shop, all I could think about were the quotes I read in the FDR memorial and wondered where would we be as a society if we spent more time teaching our children how to overcome doubt and use fear as a guide at a younger age.  

The older we get the more skill, patience and practice it takes to master the power we hold within our minds. Being able to shift an ingrained belief, which may be currently limiting who we are to one of inspiration and empowerment, starts with deciding to make a change.

What if you could change the questions you ponder and lose sleep over as soon as they begin instead of years later? What would happen if you decided to reframe these doubts and fears into possibilities? I’m curious, where is self-doubt and fear showing up for you?

You have the power to define your experience by the stories you tell yourself. What would you like your new story be? As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t you’re right!”

Let me know if you decide to reframe one of the stories you are telling yourself to a more empowering and inspiring version cause I’d love to help you create a celebration for your decision! If you would like to talk about more strategies to shift your thoughts and stories click here and book a complimentary discovery session with me today.

Equinox and Spring

Equinox being the first day of Spring started the week off with a bang! The light is now taking over the darkness and the birds are returning from the South. We’ll soon have flowers sprouting from the ground to offer us a splash of color peaking through the white snow.

Springtime offers us a fresh perspective and sense of hope.  Growing up on a farm this time of year brought a sense of newness with it. The air had a fresh crispness filled with hope and wonder and our thoughts were focused on the possibility of what was to come as we prepared the seeds to be planted. Every year was a fresh start; a new beginning when my dad would often say with certainty, “This is the year for a bumper crop!”

I still get the same renewed energy today when I see the first robin return from the south. It sparks a desire to open the windows to release the stale winter air and clean the dust from within.

Cleaning the dust off…may apply to many aspects of our lives. Spring-cleaning and tidying our surroundings by ridding ourselves of clothes we no longer or never have worn, of broken items we have in a pile waiting for the magic day they will be fixed and the piles of papers on our desk can provide a fabulous fresh feeling.  

I use a couple powerful questions to help me fly though this process:

  • When I see or touch an item, I ask, does this still bring me joy? If I say yes, it usually brings a smile to my face and then I keep moving. If the answer is no, I then ask…
  • Why am I holding on to this? The answers may vary from I might need it in the future to it was a gift.
    • Over the past few years of doing this, what I've learned is I can release the worry of needing to hold onto something in case I might need it and trust I will be able. 
    • I’ve also realized the act of giving and receiving a gift brings joy in the moment and I will always cherish that feeling, however I don’t need to hold onto the physical form of the gift! It took me 15 years to let go of wedding presents that I wasn’t sure what they were or what I would ever do with them!
  • Could someone else put it to better use? Most the time, this leads me to the donate pile 'cause I get a warm feeling inside when I’m able to give to others.

As we approach the end of the first quarter there is also an opportunity to reflect on where we are in our business or professional goals for the year. Take a moment and think about what is currently working and moving you forward. Celebrate that and be curious about how you could do more of what is creating the success.

Remember to view the flip side, what’s not working. What could you shift or adjust to improve the result you are getting? Yes, tidy up the details and your thoughts. What’s a new perspective you could have about this? Where are you holding yourself back based on an old habit?

Spring is a great time to foster and nurture a new habit!  As the clocks jumped ahead, many of my clients use the forward movement of time by one hour to remind them of their commitment to show up on time for meetings and appointments. This allows them to be fully present in the meeting from the very beginning.

How will you use the extra daylight to support you in creating your best life? I’m choosing my sneakers and heading off for a run! I wish you a fabulous week ahead.

If you choose to do a bit of Spring-cleaning, let me know what you choose to release and/or what you choose to keep because of the joy it brings you. If you get stuck and would like to chat about how to keep moving forward, click here to sign up for a complimentary discovery session with me today. 


Possibility is defined as one's utmost power, capacity, or ability. What do you believe is possible for yourself in your career, business and/or relationships?

Developing a clear vision of what is truly possible in this life may be a new idea for some of you. You may feel stuck in the past or your current circumstances and you’ve lost sight of the possibility or the opportunity that is here for you.

Gloria Steinem reminds us, “Without leaps of imagination or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all is a form of planning.”

Let’s start with dreaming.  If you were to step into your imagination and create your dream life, business or relationship, what would it look like?  Take a few minutes to fully imagine and picture this. Describe it in detail with pen to paper.

I’m curious as you try to visualize your dream and write it out, what’s the chatter happening in your mind? Many times it sounds like a variation of the following, “This will never happen for me or stop kidding myself and get back to reality.” These thoughts are helpful as they help to uncover our current level of belief in our ability to convert our dreams into our reality.

Gandhi describes the power belief has in being able to achieve dreams and goals, “Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.” 

His insight delivers good news and reminds all of us we have the ability to shift our beliefs creating a new realm of possibility to explore. The question now becomes more about being ready to make the shift to move out of being stuck in the past or current circumstances. What would it take for you to be ready? What is it costing you to remain where you are?

I remember reaching the scary tipping point where the pain of remaining in my current circumstances was greater than my fear of failure. At that moment, I decided to create new beliefs in my ability to achieve my dream and moved forward with my plan and just as Gandhi says, I indeed developed the capacity to turn my dream into my reality.

Where are you in your journey? If you were ready to create a new belief, what would it be? Starting the statement with “I am…” is a powerful way to begin training your mind to engage with your new belief and leave your old thinking behind.

Let me know what you decide. If you’d like to talk more about creating change and possibility in your life, click here to set up a complimentary discovery call with me today. 

Pregame Ritual

Create space in your life for YOU

Today’s life is hectic; work demands, family commitments, friends, community, pets and all of our to dos. The list may seem never ending at times and it can deplete our energy until we feel overwhelmed and exhausted.

Developing and strengthening our skills to weather the daily challenges we face is more important than ever. One of the best habits I’ve found to build our resilience and increase our energy stores has been to create a pregame ritual before entering into the day to play full out.

Let’s take a quick peek at what the ritual looks like. I encourage you to start by dedicating 15-20 minutes each morning to set the tone for your day. I happen to do this at home before anyone else is up, however, I have clients who wait until they get to the office before they engage in the ritual and it has worked for them.

What time would work best for you?  Pick a spot that feels comfortable where you will not be interrupted. This may mean you get up early or arrive at the office early to be able to have alone time. It will be worth it!

Let’s take a run through the ritual to see what it looks like:

Okay, you’re in a quiet spot with a delicious hot cup of coffee and ready to begin:

  • Breathe into the silence and calm of the morning, clear your mind and let go of any worry you may have.
  • Choose a book that inspires you to stretch yourself beyond your comfort zone and read a few pages. Let the words speak to you and soak them in by imagining what is possible for you in your life.
  • Choose a journal that is comfortable to write in and craft a clear intention for your day.
  • Set your priorities, goals and plan for the day. This is a great way to set you up for success every day.
  • Close by connecting your thoughts and feelings with five things you are grateful for. Gratitude is a powerful force and it can help us increase our happiness and improve our overall well-being.

This simple pregame ritual has proven to be highly beneficial for my clients and myself. Having dedicated alone time has provided them the ability to live their lives with more intention and be deliberate in their decisions and actions for the day. They are happier with the results they achieve and the overall experience of their daily lives.

Are you ready to start your pregame ritual? Let me know what you learn and how it changes your experience. If you would like to talk more about creating change in your life, click here to set up a complimentary discovery session with me today.

Tips & Tricks to Own Your Calendar

Today’s world is fast paced and it’s not going to slow down anytime soon. It’s easy to be busy, busy, busy yet feel unfulfilled and empty. Many days are spent boarding the daily treadmill, going through the motions of life, stepping off into bed to get up and repeat it the next day.

Would you like to have more time to do the things that bring you joy either at work or at home? I can hear your resounding YES from here! One of the best ways to free up time is to get real with exactly how you are currently spending your time then make decisions to change what you are doing.

The most powerful tool available and at our fingertips every day to help us add more meaning into our day is the calendar. The calendar is more than an organizational tool used to put appointments in to make sure we show up in the right place at the right time. It’s an opportunity to be engaged and decide what gets to occupy each precious block of time in our day. Decision is the key to changing the feeling of being on the treadmill. Decision places us in a driver’s seat of choice and reminds us to remember, time is a nonrenewable resource.

Today, I’d like to share with you a few successful tips and tricks to help you take back the ownership of your calendar.

A great place to start is to identify the time of day you do your best work. Is it early morning, after coffee mid-morning, after lunch or some other time? Try to keep some of this time protected for creative thinking, development of new or existing work or any major decisions needing to be made.

Review the meetings on your calendar. Create 3 buckets for them:

  1. “Keep” bucket: You’re an active participant, decision maker and influencer.
  2. “Curious” bucket: You’re an occasional contributor; you relay information to or for the group to others. This bucket provides you an opportunity to explore alternative ways to exchange information with others in an effective way. Perhaps the meeting format could be altered to do a standing huddle to exchange necessary information, which would allow the time allotted for this process to be decreased. Would it be possible to hold a virtual huddle using a technology that allows you to see each other while exchanging information yet decreasing the time spent traveling to the meeting?
  3. “Action” bucket: You say to yourself before each of these meetings, “Why do I attend this meeting? It’s a complete waste of my time.” This is a signal to DO something different. This bucket provides an opportunity to be curious and decide if this is a productive use of your time or not. It can be helpful to have a conversation with the meeting organizer to determine if it would make more sense to have another member of your team attend and/or perhaps you only need to be kept in the communication loop.

Identify the top three items to be completed for the current day. Prioritize them and then focus on one at a time.  Avoid multitasking to maximize your attention to the task at hand and take it through to completion or a natural stopping point before moving to the next item on the list.

Eliminate interruptions. Some of my clients have had great success by creating “open office hours.” These are designated times their door is wide open and they are accessible to their team for questions, conversation, or an ad hoc huddle to keep projects moving.

As new ideas pop into your mind throughout the day, jot them down as soon as you are able to so you will remember to go back to them when you have time to explore them. This may be a great list to explore in the time you have set aside for creative thinking.

There are many other effective strategies to help you return to a place of owning your calendar. These are a simple few ones to get you started. I encourage you to pick one to try out by using it for a week and discover what you learn from the experience.

Let me know which one you try and how it works for you. If you would like to talk more about other strategies or how to take a more in-depth look at how you spend your time, click here to set up a complimentary discovery session with me today.

Locker Room Shift

Super Bowl Sensation!

The Patriots pulled out all the stops on Sunday and utilized the many talented members on their team to come from behind for the huge turn around and win!

Heading into the locker room at halftime, the score was 21-3. YIKES! News headlines presented a dismal picture for the Pats. It would have been so easy for them to give up and accept a loss as inevitable, however that was NOT what they did!

Why am I writing about this? I’m not a sports writer or an expert in football, however this game provides each of us with the opportunity to realize drastic changes are possible and available to us everyday. As a coach, I’m committed to supporting people as they achieve what they once thought of as completely impossible for themselves in their relationships, career or business!

No matter what has happened in our life, the past does not dictate our future! Each moment, we are presented with the opportunity to choose how we will show up and play the game called life.

Clearly the first half of play did not dictate the outcome for the Pats. My guess is they created a palpable energetic mindset shift during their brief stay in the locker room that day. This shift allowed them to dig to the bottom of their cleats and find the resolve to run onto the field for the second half with nothing but a deep belief and utter certainty they would do exactly what it would take to win the game. And that they did!

Imagine…what would happen if you were able to create a powerful mindset shift and find the resolve to do what it would take to change an area of your life that currently appears to be a no win situation? How would your life be different?

I was blessed to be on a call with the incredible motivational speaker and author Mel Robbins Monday night! She shared her story with us how she changed her life from being in a place of devastating financial ruin to an 8-figure salary in a few years! Yes, I actually wrote out a number with 8 figures in it so I could see what it looked like! The powerful take away from the conversation was how she accomplished this. She achieved this significant change one decision and one mindset shift at a time.

Each one of us has more internal power and capacity than we know what to do with! We harness only a small portion of what is readily available to us. We spend energy and time looking back over our shoulder.

I wish I could have the time back that I used to waste reliving experiences over and over and over only to realize the outcomes are always the same! The past will not change. It is available to us as a tool to learn from and move on. We don’t need to hang out there. It’s over.

Now, when I find myself thinking about the past, I ask myself, what’s the lesson or blessing and how will I use that information to move forward today?

I’m curious, where are you holding yourself back based on an experience from your past? Or are you stuck in a belief you created about yourself based on what someone told you in the past?

The phrases may sound like one of these, “You’re not smart enough to do that or you won’t be able to make enough money doing that or no one has ever grown a business in that way.” Here are a couple of my favorites, “You’re too much, tone it down so you don’t intimidate people or you’re too old to do that.” My guess is Tom Brady never questions his ability based on his age!

Note: All of these thoughts are intended to keep you small and well protected from daring to live your best and fullest life. You have the choice to continue listening to the words of the past or create a new line to support yourself as you work to reach your goals. Grab a piece of paper and pen and draft a new phase for yourself!

Maybe a part of your life hasn’t work out so well in the first half of your game of life and you’re getting ready to enter the second half.  Imagine if you become a Patriot for a moment and decided to let the past be the past, make a conscious decision to move forward with a new sense of resolve and commitment to change, to do whatever it will take to reach your goals and create the second half of your game to be what you desire? How would that feel?

Take a “timeout” for a few minutes.  Go into your locker room and visualize achieving your goals. Use all five of your senses to create the picture for yourself in vivid Technicolor then hit the save button to create an anchor in your mind. A clear picture and feeling you can refer to at anytime.

If and when the past comes creeping back, pause and recall this powerful image along with all of the sensation it brings with it to shift your energy and focus from the past back into the present.

Let me know how your halftime locker room energy and mindset shift works for you. If you would like to talk more about how to create massive change in your life or your business, click here to set up a complimentary discovery call with me today.

Your Game...Where to Begin?

The Super Bowl is coming! Go Pats! Who’s on Your Team?

I’m from New England so I’m extremely familiar with successful sports teams! My guess is you have a favorite team of your own whether it’s a professional, college, high school or best of all your kid’s team.

Over the years, I’ve noticed many things about successful teams and what they do to help them seize the big W! They’ve created habits to consistently:

  • Fine tune their body with food and movement
  • Commit to doing what it takes – getting up at 4 am for practice in the dead of winter!
  • Practice for hours to prepare for game day
  • Huddle on the sidelines with their coach to create a plan
  • Never go into a game without all of the positions filled with a player
  • Depend on their teammates
  • Continually change their strategy to meet the challenge in front of them
  • Learn from every game they play including the losses
  • Celebrate and agonize together

I don’t know about you but I have a BIG game to play every day! I am a spouse, mum, sister, friend and now a successful business owner!

Today, I’m going to share a little bit about how to I created an amazing team to support and grow my business as a way to inspire you to begin creating yours. Yes, I needed a team! When I finally realized I couldn’t do it all by myself is when my desire started to become real!

Let’ do a roll call of who’s on my current team?

First and foremost, I must bring my best self to the game every day along with my internal burning desire and commitment to consistently do what it takes! Who else is on my team?

  • Husband & kids
  • Family & friends
  • Coach
  • Mastermind group
  • Assistant
  • Branding & website designer
  • Graphic designer & printer
  • Bookkeeper
  • Accountant
  • Lawyer
  • Mani & pedi tech
  • Networking group
  • Banker
  • Insurance agent
  • Financial advisor
  • Massage therapist
  • Chiropractor
  • Primary care provider
  • Hairdresser
  • Acupuncturist
  • Running shoes
  • Mentor(s)
  • Dog
  • Happy hour

Okay, you get the picture…it takes an entire village to create a team to sustain a successful biz! The good news is villages are not built overnight! It happens one building at a time and there’s no perfect sequence or secret sauce.

I started with a burning desire, my husband, kids, dog, coach and running shoes! When my desire to open my coaching practice had reached the point where I was going to incinerate if I didn’t find a way to act upon it, I tried to make it happen on my own which led to continuous disappointment and frustration.

Literally, I woke up one day and decided no more, I committed to my desire, and invested in my vision and myself by hiring a coach! That was a huge turning point for me. I was finally able to put some teeth into my idea! I began to see and FEEL that it was possible.

Working with my coach, I was able to begin caring for myself on a regular basis. I learned to run! Running gave me fuel to think beyond my doubts. My coach helped me see myself in a new way. She helped me learn to walk through the fear by developing a consistent belief and faith in ME. For those of you who know me, I’m sure that seems odd to you because I have always presented confident and self- assured yet when starting a business all the “what if’s” and self-doubt came rushing to the surface.

Over the years, I’ve adopted and developed consistency in the habits it takes for the win on game day! One of my favorites is learning from the loss, making a change, running the play again and creating the win! Fine tuning my skills every day no matter where I am or what I’m doing…showing up and being present.

So I’m curious, how are you feeling today? Do you feel like you are about to incinerate or have you reached the point where you are thoroughly exhausted and “what ifing” and doubting yourself to death? If you are ready to play full out in your game to make your dream a reality, it may be helpful to start with these 3 steps:

  1. Pay attention to the burning desire that keeps smoldering inside of you. Write it down. Begin to clarify it by using your senses. What does it look like? What are you feeling when you have your desire? What are the smells around you? What does it sound like? What do you taste?
  2. Share your desire with someone who is always in your court. No naysayers!
  3. Decide on one small action that will move you closer to having your desire and take that step today.

If you are stuck and not sure what the next play in your game is, I can help you! Click here to set up a 15-minute sideline huddle with me to help you figure out what the next play is in your game that will get you closer to your burning desire.  

10 Ways You Can Train Yourself to BE Happier

Happiness is a funny thing. Many times we allow our circumstances to dictate our internal happiness. We await the perfect job, the dream team to work with, an exceptional boss or bigger house to declare internal happiness. When the thing we’ve been waiting for arrives we may discover we don’t feel any different or it didn’t create the shift we expected it to. 

Many times it’s not the missing external item generating the feeling of not being happy, it’s our perspective sucking the joy out of us. It’s the negative story we create in our minds about events or people when the Truth is we have no way of knowing if what we have created in our story is true.

I’m sure you know the story I’m referring to. One of the most common ones is the drama we create when we drive the car. We get enraged with the driver that pulls out in front of us! How dare they? Don’t they know I’m in a rush? We make it all about us when the Truth is the person in the other car has no idea we even exist. They are focused on what is currently happening in their world.

Each time we create one of these stories, it’s like popping a balloon and allowing all of our energy to leak out and fizzle into the atmosphere until we are lying on the floor wilted and empty.

Each of us holds the key to our own happiness and it is wrapped up as a gift and resides in our thoughts and our perspectives about events and people in our lives.

Last week the business and career coaches who are part of the Forbes® Coaches Council were asked to share a proven strategy that we use to help train both ourselves and our clients to be happier. I am so thrilled that my response was chosen to be published along with nine other incredible coaches from around the world.

I use this strategy every day to shift my own thoughts and my clients have created this same habit. It is a way for them to keep moving forward with positive momentum as they create the changes they desire in their work and their lives. Ready to give this strategy a test drive for yourself? Here ya go…

Pause When You Notice Yourself Being Negative
When the tape starts playing the negative story in your mind, pause and ask yourself, "Is this how I want to feel?" If your answer is no, you now get to decide how you do want to feel and align your thoughts and actions to create the feeling state you most desire. Choose a new perspective that brings joy into your life. Own your power to choose.

Below is the link to check out more detailed info on the remaining 9 strategies to create a happier you: 

10 Ways You Can Train Yourself to Be Happier: 

  1. Get to Know Your Story
  2. Flip the Story
  3. Connect History to the Future
  4. Meditate
  5. Find Out What Makes You Happy
  6. Be Thankful Today
  7. See Life as a Classroom
  8. Be Your Own Best Friend
  9. Pause When You Notice Yourself Being Negative (My response)
  10. Connect with People Who Know the ‘Real’ You

One of my favorites is to Be Your Own Best Friend by Michelle Tillis Lederman. After I read it, I took a moment to reflect on the language I use when I’m in dialogue with myself and I got curious. Would I talk to my best friend using those words?

How about you? Take a moment and reflect on the last few times you have been in conversation with yourself. Would you talk with your best friend using those words? If not, begin changing the words you use and the spirit in which you use them in your conversation with yourself. Notice how different it feels.

I’m always interested in hearing when you make a decision to create a shift in your life! Let me know what you decide to test out this week. If you would like to talk about creating the life and work you desire, click here to sign up for a complimentary discovery call with me today.

January is Inventory Time

Have you ever said, “there must be more for me in this life?”

January is inventory time and everyone in the retail industry is frantically counting and recounting their inventory to create a complete list of their wares. As I’ve watched this process, it has prompted me to think about how useful inventory could be in certain areas our lives.

Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve had several conversations with people in which they have shared with me the following sentiment “there must be more for me in this life.” When I ask them what they mean by that, it always comes back to the unfulfilled feeling they have in their career.

Let’s spend today taking inventory of the wares required to create a sense of fulfillment and identify how aligned you are in your career.

Oxford Dictionaries defines career as an occupation undertaken for a significant period of a person's life and with opportunities for progress.

This definition prompts the first question in the inventory. Thinking of opportunity as the first ware in creating fulfillment, are you excited about your opportunities for the future in what you are currently doing? Let’s use a 1-10 scale, 1 = no opportunities in sight creating zero excitement 10 = plenty of opportunities are on the horizon and you are thrilled at the possibilities in front of you.  Where are you on the scale?

The dictionary also defines work as an activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result as a means of income.

I love this definition, effort done to achieve a purpose or result. Here it comes, the next set of questions, using purpose and results as the second ware for fulfillment.

  • Does your current role provide you with a sense of purpose?
  • How connected are you to the result of your efforts?  
  • Are you able to identify the impact you have in the world or does it all seem meaningless?

I get it! I’m a person who thrives on being directly connected with people in a way that allows me to be up close and personal with the impact I am having in the world, better known as my purpose.

In the past, I have been in roles where I was in a cubicle creating materials that would eventually have an impact on individuals once the materials reached them, however, that could be months or years and I would never hear their story. This delivery process put too much distance between my purpose and the result of my work creating a perfect incubator for feelings of being unfulfilled and empty.

It took me a few years to figure this out and now I know fulfillment for me comes from being with people and directly helping them. It can mean stopping to lend a hand to a homeless person on the street to supporting my clients as they reach their goals.

How close do you need to be to the results generated by your work to feel your work is meaningful and have it ignite a sense of purpose within you

Are you creating the level of impact that you would like to have? Here’s what many people say, “No, I feel I am meant to do more, but I don’t know what.” Taking the next step to do a deeper discover takes courage and can feel very scary because it may lead to making a change in your job or career or perhaps a shift in your perspective.

The size of the change is unique to everyone. It could mean expanding your level of engagement with others at work to create a stronger human connection and discovering ways you can be of service to them. This is a way to demonstrate impact and feel a sense of fulfillment. It may also open opportunities to you that you never would have considered before.

On the other hand, the change may mean honoring something you’ve known for a while, yet you’ve been denying yourself the experience of creating a deeper sense of joy in your life for a multitude of reasons. Those reasons could be hiding behind a wall of procrastination, self-doubt and all of the self-sabotaging “what-if” possibilities never once considering the one that reads, what-if this works out and I can really do this!

Humor me for just a minute and try this on for size; imagine being able to create the change you want and this change would provide you with wares of purpose and opportunity. You would be able to have the level of impact along with the results you most desire. Imagine it actually working out. Yes, it is working! How would your life be different? What does it feel like?

As you imagine, engage all of you senses. Notice if and when a smile starts to form on your face or you feel a warm sensation in your heart. What sparked those sensations?

What’s one small step you could take today to move you closer to a sense of fulfillment and joy in your job? Hit reply and let me know what you decide.

If you would like to chat about what your inventory of wares revealed to you and what next steps could look like for you, click here to sign up for a complimentary discovery call with me today.


Offer Your Smile as Your Gift


My thoughts will be brief today. As we head into the holiday week, remember people may experience this time of year in many different ways. Some are filled with joy while others feel a deep sadness; some are excited by all of the activity with friends and family while others may be lonely and afraid.

Even the joy and excitement can sometimes turn into overwhelm and chaos, which can create tension. Each of us carries a unique ability to shift that energy and that ability resides in our smile. Yes, our smile!

As it turns out, our genuine big heartfelt smile is one of the most powerful gifts we can offer others and ourselves during this time or anytime for that matter. It can re-energize us when we begin to feel weary or tense. It allows us the opportunity to perk ourselves up and feel better.

It can also warm the heart of a stranger who is feeling sad or lonely. The best part is it can spark a smile within them as well. As the smile begins to appear on their face they too begin to sense a shift and feel different.

Why is that you ask? Smiling actually triggers endorphins (feel good hormones) to be released. Who knew our smile could promote a healthier life? 

I’m offering a challenge to each of you over the next couple of weeks. Smile; really smile at people on the street, work colleagues you don’t know, as well as yourself in the mirror. Own it, you know the kind of smile that creates a twinkle in your eye. Open a door for someone and offer him or her a smile. Notice what happens for you and for them.

Let me know what you discover. If you’d like to chat about creating a shift within your work and/or life in 2017, click here to set up a discovery session with me today.

I wish each of you a very Merry Christmas and Wonderful Holiday Season!

Be Present; Live Life Now

Last week I wrote about the ability we have as adults to create new beliefs when we learn a belief we acquired sometime in our past is no longer serving us. This is a powerful way to let go of the past and move beyond being stuck to create the life you desire.

Life is a funny adventure. Many people spend the majority of their life living in their past and/or fearing their future. Who knew it would be so challenging to BE present? How many times a day do we revert to the past or jump to the future exerting tons of energy in each place? 

It can feel as if we’ve boarded a time machine and it keeps jumping from past to future skipping over the present.  We are so busy learning from the past and planning for the future that we forget the most valuable time is right now.

If you find yourself using the following words:

  • I should have…
  • I wish I had…
  • I shouldn’t have…
  • If I had only…

Those are clues to let you know you are viewing life from the past. This perspective can be valuable as it offers us a place to learn from our experiences, yet we don’t want to get stuck in the agony of analyzing and wishing we had done or said something different.

I find there’s a sweet spot where we can visit the past to observe and soak in the lessons long enough to allow them to come forward with us into the present and future, yet leaving before guilt sets in. It can be helpful to remember, we can’t change the past, however, we can forgive it.

There tends to be a similar sweet spot in the amount of planning we do for the future. When you are in the midst of planning, notice if you begin to attach worry to the future plan or if you begin to feel anxious about all of the unanswered questions. This may be a signal it’s time to return to the present.

Returning to the present allows us to take action, the first step in the process; based on our plan and trust the next steps will be revealed. As Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “Faith is taking the first step even though you can’t see the whole staircase.”

When you choose to live in the present you’ll get to build on the energy of the step you just took to keep moving forward. Keep checking in with the future to know you are on track to reach your goal.

The present is a gift that provides us the ability to fully experience the richness of life and what is happening in the moment.

Take a few minutes and identify an area of your life (or work) where you may be stuck in the past. Imagine what it would feel like to forgive yourself and others then move forward in peace bringing with you what you learned from the experience for the future.  

Where are you feeling overwhelmed with the future? Try taking a break in developing your plan, return to the present and take what you feel is the next logical step in the plan or the step that feels right for you.

By taking action forward, many times this will provide the energy shift needed to identify the next step and further develop the long-term plan. Before you know it, you’ll be at the top of the staircase!

We have three choices of where we would like to view and live our life from the past, the present or the future. Where would you like to spend the majority of your time?

When I work with people to help them LIVE their life in the present while using the past as a guide and the future as a roadmap, it can be really helpful to understand more about the traits each of us possess as human beings. My friends Erin and Tom over at Currency Camp have developed a fascinating tool to help with the discovery process. I’m excited to announce that I will begin using this with many of my private one-on-one clients in 2017.

As a bonus for you, I decided to partner with them on today’s post so you can get a jump-start to make 2017 the year you move beyond being stuck and into the present! Head on over and read their insights on the 7 Human Natures. You will gain insight on how our natures effect how we trade our currency. Trade our currency… “What on earth does that mean?” I won’t spoil it for you. Here’s the link that will tell you more!

While you’re there take their brief and confidential survey and then I’d love to hear from you and what your nature is. Click here to set up a discovery session with me today and we’ll chat about your nature, how it serves you and how it may be holding you back.

Make 2017 the year you choose to BE present and LIVE NOW!

Move Beyond Being Stuck in 2017

I’m a curious bird and always asking questions. As 2016 draws to a close, take a moment to reflect on the year. Was the year everything you had hoped it would be?

For some of you the answer is absolutely and for others, it may be no, not so much and for most of you, it’s probably a combination of these two answers. Let’s talk about the areas in your life that fall into the not so much category.

What is the number 1 area in your life you would like to have a different result in? Many times this has been the same answer year after year, whether it is to find a new job, launch a business, and make more money, or reach your ideal weight.

Why is it that people get stuck? We know we want a different result yet we keep running the same play over and over again hoping for a new result. Yes, Einstein defines that as insanity!

We grew up taking in and absorbing oodles of information through our five senses. This information planted beliefs in our subconscious mind from the day we were born, which in many cases these beliefs are still calling the plays in our life at 30, 40 or 50 years old.

Don’t get me wrong, many of these beliefs are helpful, however, my guess is there are a few holding you back from creating the life you most desire. Facing these beliefs may feel very scary and the thought of changing them becomes paralyzing, creating the place of being stuck.

I would like to share with you a brief story about one of my clients that I will call Joe.  For years, Joe has been absolutely miserable doing what he does for work, yet he gets paid very well to do it. He grew up hearing the people he loved and looked up to make references such as, “Wow, he has a good job with benefits and security, and no one ever walks away from that!”

As Joe grew up, he continued to see his parents and relatives go to work every day doing work they felt no connection to. The work didn’t appear to utilize any of their natural gifts and talents. This became the norm for what Joe expected his work life to be.

Now every time Joe gets a twinge to change his career, to do something he would love, the recording begins to play and continues to replay the words with his name in it “Wow, Joe has a good job with benefits and security, and no one ever walks away from that!” It plays over and over again which results in shutting down his idea and he boards the train to go to the same job he’s been going to for years.

The good news is as adults we get to keep the beliefs that serve us well and create new ones to help move us out of the crater we are stuck in. Joe has been able to create a new belief about work and he now does work that he is highly engaged in and excited about. It provides him the opportunity to stretch and grow his talents in a way he didn’t think possible.

When I work with people to help them shift their beliefs, it can be really helpful to understand more about the traits each of us possess as a human being. My friends Erin and Tom over at Currency Camp have developed a fascinating tool to help with the discovery process. I’m excited to announce that I will begin using this with my clients in 2017. Stay tuned for more on this exciting news!

In the meantime, take a moment to identify an area where you are feeling stuck in your life. Now get curious with yourself about what underlying belief have you acquired that may be contributing to keeping you from moving forward? 

Once you have identified the belief, what would be another way you could choose to believe that would serve you better and allow you to move forward? Let's go back to Joe, he now believes it is beneficial to make a job change to a role that is more aligned with who he is as a person and what is important to him. He no longer believes what he grew up hearing. Funny thing about Joe, he makes more money now than he did in the role he was miserable in! 

What will you shift in your beliefs for 2017? Let me know! If you'd like to chat more about how to become unstuck click here to set up a discovery session with me today.

Make 2017 the year you move beyond being stuck!